7 Ways to Help You Say "No"
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, like you’ve taken on too much? You know that feeling when you just can’t keep more in your head, without something slipping out a little?
I’m sure most of you feel like I’m singing your song, as they say. A lot of people have too much on their plate. And if you’re anything like me, you may find it hard to finally put an end to all of it.
When that next person comes along and asks you for a favor, you just can’t say no. It really sucks, trust me. One of the hardest things for me, personally. But, I’m here to tell you, you really can. You really can just say no. I’m definitely no expert with this kinda stuff, but I am gonna do my best… here come 7 ways that can maybe help make it a bit easier for you!
7 Ways to Help You Say “No”
Accepting – It is totally okay that this is hard for you! Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re human, not everything has to be easy. Also! If you’re having trouble saying no to someone, it usually means you care a lot about them. Says a lot about you. News flash! You’re a good person!
Your rights – Remember, you are allowed to say no. You are most definitely supposed to take care of yourself first, and if that means saying no to someone, then go right ahead and do that.
Postponing – Saying things like “I’ll think about it, and let you know” is A-okay!
Breathing – This one always helps me. When I’m stuck worrying about how to deal with whatever’s going on, I try to remind myself to take a deep breath. Works like a charm!
Alternatives – If you’re saying no, you can always suggest other ways the request can be met. Something like “…but, how about you…” This can help them figure out what to do, AND it might make you feel a bit better too!
Your gut – Ever get that feeling that something just doesn’t feel right? It’s almost like even hearing about this thing makes your tummy feel… different. Well, over the years I’ve learnt that this feeling usually means something. Listen to it.
Bluntness – This one… can be kinda tricky. It may sound shocking, but it can be done. I’ve witnessed it happening before, so it’s not just a myth. You can just straight out say “no, thanks”. Sounds weird, right? Well, you can always give it a try if you’re up for it! If you do, please let me know it goes!
As always, I would love to hear any stories you may have!
Have you ever had trouble saying no? What did you do? How did you feel afterwards?
Share away in the comments!